For weeks and weeks, I would listen to my friend list her struggles at work. I would hold her as she sobbed over her perceived failures and inability to excel in her new role. We would rehash her most recent meeting and she would beat herself up over an answer she did not have or a slide that was missed. The way she described her performance at work was a constant beating on her own self esteem. She would spend 1% of every day celebrating her success and 99% of every day treating herself like crap. She would explain her failures to me and ask how she should proceed; what she could do to fix the situation she had gotten herself into. Every day felt to her like she was standing on the edge of a cliff and with one strong wind gust, she would be blown over the edge into a freefall that she could never recover from. The voices in her head said, “You are not good enough, you are not smart enough, you are not capable, you cannot do this.” …. she nearly gave up, nearly convinced herself that those voices were speaking the truth. The truth was that all along those voices in her head were telling bold faced lies.
Tag Archives: Work
I WISH I COULD SHUT DOWN MY BRAIN LIKE I SHUT DOWN MY COMPUTER
I have worked for years with a colleague that has a superpower. I know it is a superpower because I would give nearly anything to also find a way to have this superpower AND there is no one I have ever met that also has this same innate ability. It is the power to shut down everything that happened during the workday in his brain and just move on with enjoying his evening and most importantly his sleep!
Just Be a Mom
Here is to the moms. The expecting moms, the new moms, the first-time moms, the experienced moms, the corporate moms, the struggling moms, the exhausted moms, the multi-tasking moms…. All of these “moms” describe me at some point in my life.
MEET HER IN THE MIDDLE
Four weeks before my first son was born in 2004, I was promoted to a Regional Managers position; I began reporting to a man that had little patience for the idea that I was going to have my first child in a few weeks.
The Heart of the Middle 